Out of the woodwork ...

So, I've been quite amused of late about a little known (or maybe not so little known) phenomenon whereby when you finally fall into a relationship that fits, ex-boyfriends, lovers, heartbreakers, etc. decide all of a sudden that after months/years of non-contact, they want to "reconnect." WTF?

My friend Ellen thinks there have been actual scientific studies conducted on this oddity. I guess it just proves the theory that people always want what they can't have.

So I suppose I can take this opportunity to let the cat out of the bag for anyone who didn't already know. Yes, I am in a relationship. I know. Me. I've fallen into monogamy and I couldn't be happier.

You know how people always say that when you stop looking it will just kind of happen unexpectedly? Well, several months back, after a slew (read: about 5 years) of undesireable dating experiences, I said — "Fuck this. I'm done." I proactively gave up dating for at least 4 months, deciding instead to focus more heavily on work and nurting relationships with my friends (and occassionally also nurturing a bottle of champagne Charles would bring over for Champagne Thursdays ... but I digress).

Well, right before Christmas, an old friend popped back into town and I insisted we meet for drinks. He brought another friend of ours with him — someone I hadn't seen or spoken to in five years — for no other reason than I graduated college and moved away. Well, long story short, something clicked that night, we started dating, and now Chris and I are in a very happy, warm, fuzzy place.

It's sort of amazing that we've known each other for so long and are only now just realizing what a great fit we are for each other. In many ways, I'm his complete opposite. He's completely left brained and I'm ruled by the right brain. He likes computers. I like using the computer to make pretty things. He likes math. I like words. He's blonde. I'm brunette. He has light green eyes. I have dark brown eyes. But, we both enjoy a heavy dose of sarcasm and a good debate. (That should keep things interesting). He makes me smile on a regular basis and I feel great when I'm with him. It's a nice change. I think I'll stick with it.

So, all you exes/heartbreakers out there ... move it along. You can't compare so don't even try.